This is the microblog of Chong Kwong Sheng. Find out more about.me/chongkwongshengTumblr (3.0; @chongkwongsheng)http://zeroverge.com/<img src="http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzn0qdusoT1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Narti has a knack for making sinful treats!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/17877857052http://zeroverge.com/post/17877857052Sun, 19 Feb 2012 19:18:13 +0800Instagram<img src="http://30.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lyuth5XjFR1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Having a quick & light lunch!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/17017523644http://zeroverge.com/post/17017523644Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:48:40 +0800Instagram<img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lyk6usUJE41qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Chilli crab kueh pieti… The ultimate in kueh pietis!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/16691989450http://zeroverge.com/post/16691989450Sun, 29 Jan 2012 20:04:04 +0800Instagram<img src="http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lxf9xitXh51qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Indulging on our honeymoon… Thai milk tea ice cream! Gosh!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/15446165818http://zeroverge.com/post/15446165818Sat, 07 Jan 2012 17:48:54 +0800Instagram<img src="http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lvf7gpeZ9l1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Mmm, last day of 1-for-1 promotion!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/13497101833http://zeroverge.com/post/13497101833Tue, 29 Nov 2011 19:48:24 +0800Instagram<img src="http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lv9x6dPpM61qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Wei Quan and Rachel’s first dance!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/13349248200http://zeroverge.com/post/13349248200Sat, 26 Nov 2011 23:18:12 +0800Instagram<img src="http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lv9ovh1xJy1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>I’m getting old, so I guess it’ll be early to bed for the 6th course.</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/13344782904http://zeroverge.com/post/13344782904Sat, 26 Nov 2011 20:18:53 +0800Instagram<img src="http://30.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lv9ko8i8o91qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Congratulations, my friend!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/13343214014http://zeroverge.com/post/13343214014Sat, 26 Nov 2011 18:48:07 +0800Instagram<img src="http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lv8z5rkN1k1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>A single rose in a overturned glass vase makes for a Beauty & The Beast rose look-a-like. Recreating an old gift to my beloved.</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/13329274010http://zeroverge.com/post/13329274010Sat, 26 Nov 2011 11:03:26 +0800Instagram<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_luj7dz3O5b1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>The traditional proposal happened to be the same date as my actual proposal to Jinda 2 years ago!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/12675653379http://zeroverge.com/post/12675653379Sat, 12 Nov 2011 13:03:35 +0800Instagram<p>They say that worrying is a like a rocking chair: It gives you something to do, but gets you nowhere.</p> <p>However, regardless of whether one knows how unproductive worrying is, one still does. I was doing just that a moment ago, until I got distracted with how to stop worrying. So here’s what I got so far.</p> <p>A person worries when he or she is uncertain about an outcome and imagines as many outcomes as possible, but focuses on the negative. The more steps there are to the problem, the more exponential the possibilities are. So there are two parts, being uncertain and focusing on the negative.</p> <p><strong>About being uncertain</strong></p> <p>To reduce uncertainty, one needs more information. Without information, the tendency is to worry about the negative (next step). Why? People are generally defensive as a survival instinct. To focus on the negative allows a person to prepare for it.</p> <p>Having more information allows for a more objective assessment of whether effort and energy should be put into preparing for the worst. Otherwise, even if the chance of a positive outcome is higher, the subjective focus on the negative blinds one into the next step of worrying.</p> <p>The other thing to remember is, outcomes are infinite. The question is, are you worrying about the top few most likely or are you trying to be a supercomputer and trying to figure out the trillion and one ways things are going to go? Pick the most likely few (if you can’t count them with one hand, you know that that’s too many) and evaluate them.</p> <p><strong>About focusing on the negative</strong></p> <p>Focusing on the negative is not bad in itself. But it is bad ALONE. Once you properly assess that the chance of the worse or worst scenarios being a possibility, one needs to properly act accordingly. So it’s good to remember the following:</p> <ol><li>If a problem has a solution, apply it.</li> <li>If a problem has no solution, there is nothing you can do about it anyway.</li> </ol><p>If there is no solution, well, let’s say that worrying has no use. The outcome is beyond one’s control and one should accept it. But if it hasn’t happened, there is no benefit to assume it will.</p> <p>Not all solutions are desirable, but it is better than the problem (if it’s not, then it’s not a solution). Those are solutions only because we can act on them, and when facing it, we should. But until we face the problem, we cannot apply the solution.</p> <p>Of course, we can apply the concepts of insurance and hedging to mitigate the risks or even reduce the probability of the worst possible outcome by taking steps. However, like solutions, action must be taken.</p> <p>Once you know what you should do, you can stop worrying.</p> <p><strong>Conclusion: </strong>Evaluate, prepare and act/react. Anything else is a distraction.</p> <ol><li>What are the most likely outcomes without intervention (up to five)?</li> <li>Weigh the likelihood of positive and negative outcomes. Realise it may not be all that bad.</li> <li>Eliminate the negative outcomes that are you cannot control or solve.</li> <li>Of the remaining negative outcomes, prepare against them or to mitigate in proportion to their likelihood. If it’s very unlikely, put minimal effort into it.</li> <li>Let time unfold the sequence of events. At each step, when you face an outcome undesirable, apply the solution accordingly or face the inevitable if it cannot be solved, then repeat if the process is not complete.</li> </ol>http://zeroverge.com/post/11860621037http://zeroverge.com/post/11860621037Mon, 24 Oct 2011 19:00:06 +0800<img src="http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ltgqnzmTKF1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>My Sister’s housewarming. Time to load up!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/11768074288http://zeroverge.com/post/11768074288Sat, 22 Oct 2011 18:33:34 +0800Instagram<img src="http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lsfluv5P7S1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Back at the place of proposal!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10928164378http://zeroverge.com/post/10928164378Sun, 02 Oct 2011 17:18:31 +0800Instagram<img src="http://30.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lsfdjkrWDk1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>More than meets the eye?</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10924899956http://zeroverge.com/post/10924899956Sun, 02 Oct 2011 14:18:55 +0800Instagram<img src="http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lse0wxntm71qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Happy Birthday, dear uncle!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10886157075http://zeroverge.com/post/10886157075Sat, 01 Oct 2011 20:48:32 +0800Instagram<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ls4x4wXLZJ1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>One’s birthday is also a reminder of the sacrifice your mother made for you the day you were born!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10687497669http://zeroverge.com/post/10687497669Mon, 26 Sep 2011 22:48:32 +0800Instagram<img src="http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ls4jxuEPi41qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Taken 2 hours ago, while waiting to surprise my beloved at her workplace. Had to time the collection of the cakes too. :)</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10682974738http://zeroverge.com/post/10682974738Mon, 26 Sep 2011 18:03:29 +0800Instagram<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ls2u4bJm3O1qhu06no1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Having one after a long break from cold drinks due to my cough. Going to enjoy a cozy dinner tonight with my beloved!</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10638499417http://zeroverge.com/post/10638499417Sun, 25 Sep 2011 19:48:11 +0800Instagram<p>If you’re too busy fooling others, be careful that you may just be the greatest fool of all, if the other is merely playing the fool.</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10510144953http://zeroverge.com/post/10510144953Thu, 22 Sep 2011 12:35:25 +0800<p>5. You don’t need your friend’s mobile number. You just need to be friends with them on Facebook, chances are that you already are.<br/> 4. You can actually pin your location in your message so it’s great when arranging meetings.<br/> 3. You can easily switch off alerts for the whole app or conversations, temporarily or indefinitely.<br/> 2. You don’t have to worry that someone who sent you a message knows you’ve read it (and feel obligated to answer promptly).<br/> 1. You can send and receive messages from many platforms, not just your phone (and only ONE phone).</p>http://zeroverge.com/post/10477935260http://zeroverge.com/post/10477935260Wed, 21 Sep 2011 19:33:36 +0800